Elena and Marissa Delgado walked into Tastries bakery two weeks before their July 1 wedding holding hands, they said.

They were nervous.

Another cake order had fallen through and they were worried about getting someone to make them a cake on such short notice.

But, both women said, the experience at Tastries was perfect.

Employees of the bakery took their order for a fantastic four-tier, white-and-gold wedding cake, took their deposit and sent the two women on their way talking about the exceptional service at the Rosedale Highway bakery.

On the day of the wedding, Elena said, the cake arrived and a Tastries employee put the cake topper — two women in dresses — on top of the cake.

Everything was perfect.

“I would never bash their cake. The cake was delicious. The service was amazing,” Elena Delgado said.

Which is why Elena and Marissa Delgado were stunned over the weekend to learn that Tastries owner Cathy Miller had refused to make cakes for two same-sex couples in the past week.

“It’s terrible for anyone to be discriminated against,” Elena said. “We feel very hurt by that and we feel for them.”

Miller’s daughter, Katie Miller, said Tastries looked into the contract with the Delgados and there was no evidence that the two women were intending to marry each other.

The staff member who took the order, Katie said, did not remember the pair holding hands or indicating in any way they were ordering a cake for a same-sex marriage.

A copy of the order form provided to The Californian shows the cake was ordered by Elena Davis to be delivered to First Congregational Church on Stockdale Highway.

Information about the type of event that the cake was for was not filled out.

Notes on the form indicate that the cake topper and flowers would be at the event location.

On Monday Cathy Miller explained her motivations to The Californian after  two same-sex couples commented on Facebook that she had refused to make wedding cakes for them.

“As Christians we have a love for everyone. We want to embrace everyone. We are all God’s children. We are happy to make birthday cakes and cupcakes and cookies and brownies for everyone. We want to celebrate each individual regardless," she said.

But, she said, she has to follow her beliefs.

“My conscience doesn’t allow me to participate in certain activities that are contrary to my Biblical beliefs,” Miller said. “I pray that we can all come to an understanding so that we can continue to get along.”

Marissa and Elena see themselves as normal people.

They have jobs in oil sales and finance.

“We attend church ourselves on a regular basis,” Marissa said. “We’re just typical residents of Kern County.”

Marissa Delgado said that if Miller is opposed to serving gay people, she should make it clear to customers so they could take their business elsewhere.

“I wish somehow she would post her policy so people could know right away,” she said.

They can only speculate about why they were able to get a cake when others were turned away.

“We did not talk to the owner ourselves,” Elena Delgado said. “That probably made a difference.”

The pair said they worked with three or four Tastries employees and there could be no question that they were two women trying to order a cake for their wedding to each other.

“Either they don’t know her beliefs or they’re going against them,” Elena said.

Elena’s mother, Kathleen Davis, wrote in an email to The Californian that the cake was clearly for the marriage of two women.

“My husband and I were at the reception hall when the cake arrived and the gal who delivered it set the cake up and even placed the topping with two brides atop the cake. The cake was beautiful, tasted fabulous and we were very pleased at the end of the day,” Davis said.

She said she saw the Tastries cake as a blessing from God.

“It's truly ironic that according to my own Christian faith that I thought ‘what a blessing that my Elena and Marissa will have such a beautiful cake,’ she wrote. “Little did we know that Cathy Miller, for whatever reason, did not even realize what a blessing she was being to my daughter and her wife. If she had known, then she would have withheld that blessing.”

The Californian's Facebook page has seen robust debate about Miller's stand as people weighed in on both sides of the controversial issue.

Miller's critics point out that state law does not allow business owners to refuse service to customers based on their race, religion, language or sexual orientation, among a number of other classes.

Supporters question why a business owner should be forced to abandon their religious beliefs in order to be in business.

Elena and Marissa are just thankful they got their cake. But they are sad others weren’t able to enjoy Tastries’ exceptional cake and service.

“Everyone deserves a nice cake for their wedding day,” Elena Delgado said.

James Burger can be reached at 661‑395-7415. Follow him on Twitter: @KernQuirks.

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After seeing your this recipe we could not stop ourselves without Making this cake. We bake it, it was really fantastic!!!


Cathy Long-Miller is a nice person, but she has always had a sense of self righteousness. I have known her a long time.


Never been there before. I will now.


Mrs. Miller chooses not to partake in a gay couples celebration is her right, whether you agree or disagree you are missing the point! This woman has the right to refuse service to anyone with or without cause and that doesn't make her a bigot. She has as much rights as everyone else, I think it's sad that this couple feels discriminated because she didn't make them a wedding cake! Whaaaaaaaa, get over it, then to waist time whining in a court room over your feelings when there are criminals out there reeking havic killing, stealing, etc. Wow life doesn't give participation awards people! She has the same right to her religious views, just as much as the gay couple do getting married!

The Todd

Have you ever heard of something called the Unruh Civil Rights Act? The owner is breaking the law. Freedom of religion doesn't mean you get to break laws when you feel like it.


You ask if I have heard of the Civil Rights Acct, well have you ever read it? That act refers to employment laws.

The Todd

The Unruh Civil Right Act states "All persons within the jurisdiction of this state are free and equal, and no matter what their sex, race, color, religion, ancestry, national origin, disability, medical condition, genetic information, marital status, or sexual orientation are entitled to the full and equal accommodations, advantages, facilities, privileges, or services in all business establishments of every kind whatsoever." How is that about employment laws? It really astounds me how people like you don't even know what rights you are entitled to in the state of California.


First of all I know my facts and all civil rights ACTS I am quoting are Federal, which if you are not aware supercedes any state laws. Not to mention in your quote below you state religion as a pretected class, so tell me this why should the gay couple have more rights, under what state law you quoted, than Mrs. Smith. Just because they have made a choice to throw a fit, how come you are not standing up for her rights! Just saying, could it be one sided?

The Todd

So much ignorance in one post. First, let me cover your ignorance regarding the law. The supremacy clause in regards to federal and state laws only applies when there are conflicting laws. There is no federal law that states "All citizens have the right to discriminate based on sexual orientation" so you do not have a federal law that supersedes California's Unruh Civil Rights Act. Now let me cover your ignorance regarding religion and the law. You are correct that religion is a protected class. No one can discriminate based on what your religious beliefs are. However, that does not mean that you get free reign to break the law because of your religion. The owner of the bakery has every right to her beliefs, but if she wants to run a public business in California, she can not discriminate based on the classes in the Unruh Civil Rights Act. Both the owner of business and the couples that were denied service are granted the exact same rights under the Unruh Civil Rights Act. I'm not standing up for the owner's civil rights because her rights are not being denied, she is denying the rights of others.


Todd - First of all calling someone ignorant is childish, obviously you are young in your thinking. Anyway, when I stated federal supersedes state law it is because federal law does not prohibit discrimination based on sexual orientation, so gays are not a protected group under the federal law (look it up, do your homework). Yes, according to Civ. Code - CIV 51 and Gov Code 12940 (these are state laws), which you keep quoting, makes gay couples and religious people in the same protected group. Again, who should be protected? Are you aware that there is a thing called "Religious Freedom Law" which protects Mrs. Miller; Business Law protects her too. If she were to deny a same sex couple because they were ugly and accepted a gay couple because they were not would be illegal. She has the choice to refuse service to the same group of people because of her belief. Basically what I am saying is her religious beliefs allow her to deny service to "ANY GAY COUPLE GETTING MARRIED AS LONG AS SHE DOES IT TO ALL GAY COUPLES".


Todd as I mentioned in the other post she did not break any laws and she is protected by "Freedom of Religion Act" and "Business Law". Review them, as long as a business refuses to serve a class of people all the time based on her regions beliefs does not make it illegal. Plus federal law does not prohibit discrimination based on sexual orientation, so gays are not a protected group under the federal law. So, you can call me ignorant is you decide to all I am doing is quoting THE LAWS! Again, tell me which protected group is in the wrong!!! This sir is based on ones own belief. I believe, based on the laws I reviewed, the store owner did nothing wrong. Remember interpretation is based on ones own experiences.

The Todd

I have called you ignorant because you are the very definition of ignorant. I do not mean this as an insult, you simply lask the knowledge about the law. Once again, supersession only occurs when there are contradicting state and federal laws. With your logic, there would be no reason to ever pass a state law because there would be no federal law accompanying it. As long as there is no federal law that states that it is a U.S. right to discriminate against people based on sexual orientation, the Unruh Civil Rights Act stands up in the court of law. You can be sued in the state of California for violating the Unruh Civil Rights act. If you do not like this, you can simply move to a state where such laws do not exist. Only then will you only have to follow federal law. I have an MBA, so I've studied Business Law for years. As for the "Freedom of Religion Act," the only thing I could find by that name is a Bill that has to do with religious discrimination during the vetting process for immigrants. Your logic in this statement, " as long as a business refuses to serve a class of people all the time based on her regions beliefs does not make it illegal," is quite confusing. If the law operated in the way you think it does, segregation would still be legal. Do you believe that segregation is still legal? If you can link me to a US law that makes it legal for a business that is open to the public to discriminate and supersedes all Civil Rights Acts, I would love to see it.


Todd I too am educated with a MSBA degree; I know my business law and you calling me ignorant because my views and interpretation differ from yours is one sided thinking. There are laws that protect our religious beliefs. California, being a liberal state, doesn't have revised version for our state. Nonetheless, it does exist and will get stronger with our new President Trump. I could see an issue, if there was truly one, but getting your feeling hurt because of being denied a cake is childish. Did any of this stop their wedding? Did they go cakeless? No!!!
There are laws "First Amendment Defense Act" and the" Religious Restoration Act" just to name a few. If you truly have the education you say you would know that some laws can be turned around with loop holes, and are interpreted differently based on ones beliefs, etc. and the majority of rulings in our courts are backed with case history. As for moving out of California I own my home and before I leave I will fight with others who share my beliefs to restore our country and our state to what it once was!!!


If people expect people to respect their personal beliefs and personal choices on who they marry, etc. then how does the same not apply? Isnt it a double standard to demand the right to these decisions and then attempt to force others to participate in them against their will?




Whatever happened to "WE RESERVE THE RIGHT TO REFUSE SERVICE TO ANYONE?" Now, all the LGBT people will probably endanger her life. I feel sorry for this woman because the mob will come after her and her family.


I agree 110%... And yet they preach acceptance and tolerance, they seem to be more violent than hate groups, oh I am sorry that is exactly how they are acting!!!

boo radley007

Maybe they have a don't ask don't tell policy. Honestly I don't argue too much with food establishments too much because I don't want spit or anything else in my food. I'm sure there are enough gay people getting married that many businesses would love to make their cakes. Gay couples are typically in the higher income groups so it would be a no brainer to me.


Sell them the cake and let them put their own fruitcake toppers on the thing....


id rather have champagne cake from Smith's any day of the week mmmmmm


I wonder if Ms Miller simply did not know that cake was being made for two women, which seems highly unlikely as hands-on as she is in that shop, or somehow, she picks & chooses her bigotry.


Mrs. Miller has just as much rights as the gay couple, she not a bigot she standing up for her beliefs!

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