When one parent felt frustrated with administrators in the Panama-Buena Vista Union School District who she felt were not doing enough to stop alleged instances of bullying involving her son, she took to social media.

Kami Buchanan's post which describes bullying, name calling, inaction from the district and her son's recent hospitalization has captured the attention of the community and has been shared by more than 4,200 people as of Friday. 

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Kami Buchanan's post that describes bullying, name calling, inaction from the district and her son's recent hospitalization has captured the attention of the community and has been shared by more than 4,200 people as of Friday. 

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Kami Buchanan's post that describes bullying, name calling, inaction from the district and her son's recent hospitalization has captured the attention of the community and has been shared by more than 4,200 people as of Friday. 

From it all, she is looking for a silver lining. 

"All I want is for everyone to be safe and that the school goes through the necessary steps to inform parents (of bullying)," Buchanan said Thursday.

Since enrolling her son, James, into the Panama-Buena Vista Union School District for kindergarten, Buchanan said bullying has been an issue. 

"He went to Montessori preschool for years and thrived," she explained.

When he began kindergarten at Ronald Reagan Elementary School, she described there were initial instances with children calling him "gay" and "pushing him around," but most concerning was an alleged instance on the playground.

After more instances of alleged bullying took place, Buchanan decided she had enough. She met with Gerrie Kincaid, assistant superintendent of educational services, to discuss transfer options.

"I heard good things about (Leo B. Hart Elementary School), and I heard good things about how the principal dealt with bullying," Buchanan said.

Since the transfer, however, Buchanan says "it’s been chaos."

"It seems like weekly I am hearing of something that’s happened," she said. "James used to like to go to school, now he doesn’t. He cries himself to sleep at night, he doesn't sleep at night, he has anxiety, he’s talked about how he wishes he could be in heaven where everyone would love him.

"He’s had kids put their hands on him — pushed, hit, just little things that kids do. Mainly, he’s incessantly name called," his mother added. He came home one day and asked her what the word "gay" meant because he heard kids at school calling him that, along with a homophobic slur.

"If he ends up being gay, that’s part of his identity, and I don’t want it to be negatively associated with of all this."

Although she and her husband have followed up with the school on several of these instances, she says school administrators do not get back to them or provide incident reports.

Hart Elementary School did not respond to requests for comment Thursday and Friday.

After the most recent bullying incident — James was allegedly beat up on a school bus on Monday, two days before his ninth birthday — she decided to share her frustrations on Facebook.

In the post, she recounts a meeting in December 2018 with Kincaid where "she dropped in on a meeting between the principal and I, and wouldn’t let him talk to me. She told me they didn’t have to provide incident reports and that I was no longer allowed on campus if I was going to keep pushing these issues. She dropped my purse on top of my baby and he tipped over and hit his head. She shoved me out of the office with her body."

Kincaid on Thursday said she was aware of the Facebook post and the way she is characterized in it "is false in its entirety."

"She has reported instances regarding her son, like someone has been mean to him, unkind and a recent incident involved on a school bus where a first-grader hit her son," Kincaid said. "The principal, in all cases, has investigated it and taken appropriate action. He’s very concerned about the child’s safety."

Kincaid explained if a child is experiencing issues of any kind, they are encouraged to tell their teacher, a supervision aide or another adult. Parents can make a report, and the school's principal will investigate the situation to determine what consequences would follow if appropriate. Kincaid also said employees are trained on ways to deal with bullying effectively.

"We try to be very timely. We want to make sure every child feels safe," said Kincaid. "Their social and emotional well-being is our priority."

She visited the school site Wednesday to speak with faculty about any other alleged instances of bullying among students, but she said there are no concerns currently.

Social media has also expanded the district's view on bullying, with Kincaid saying older students are experiencing it more online. Students are still encouraged to let adults know about any and all types of bullying. 

After her post reached thousands of people, Buchanan thought it would lead to more action from the district, but she said Thursday she did not receive any calls from administrators. Regardless, the family is moving forward and currently on a waitlist to homeschool James through Inspire Charter Schools.

A direct result of the post, however, was James coming home on his birthday Wednesday with a backpack full of cards and words of encouragement. Buchanan said she could not stop crying. A little kindness goes a long way, not just for her family, but children everywhere.

"When I know that parents read it, they must have spoken to their children about it," she said. "Other kids are still at school, feeling how he feels. I felt so proud of our community and the parents and students when I opened his backpack. I have faith that at least the kids are going to help protect other students."

Ema Sasic can be reached at 661-395-7392. Follow her on Twitter: @ema_sasic.

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(13) comments


If it was my son I would not send him back to that school not one more day. If school district wont protect him then you as a parent should not send him back again alone ...duh!


Me thinks there may be another side to this story. I don’t think the principal at Hart lost his ability to deal with bullying issues when her son came to school there. I also think you can cue representation by Daniel Rodriguez in 3, 2, 1........


I used to be a student at leo b. hart elementary; i also used to go to ronald reagen elementary, that one summer, during summer school. And to think what that poor mother and her son had to go through. I'm just glad that she stepped up to the plate, and rattled their cages!


I think it’s awful that this child had to go through this.I also think Gerri Kinkaid should have to answer for not helping better the situation.I applaud the parent for going and exposing that school district..I can’t believe they have not tried to reach out to better this situation.I guess they don’t care about the children. It’s really to bad maybe they are in the wrong professions.


Also, any school administrator who chooses to bad mouth the parents of a bullied child rather than work with the parent to end the bullying should reconsider being in a career in which the lives of children are put under your care.


Also, parents should create an organization with other parents of bullied kids. I suspect every parents goes through a disgustingly similar experience with their kids and it would be great for parents to support each other instead of parents having to face this alone.


Your child's best advocate in school are his or her TEACHERS. DO NOT TRUST SCHOOL ADMINISTRATORS. Think of the job that non-educators like Kincaid do: they maintain good public relations. They do not exist to PROTECT your kids. They exist to MAINTAIN THE GOOD NAME OF THE SCHOOL.


The current bullying policy schools have is a total joke. It's in place only for them to say they have one in hopes they don't get sued as bad. The Superintendent at Lakeside told me they have a program that many school districts have where kids are taught how to talk themselves out of trouble. What a freaken joke. It's hard to convince the bully to leave you alone when he has his fist in your mouth.


I don’t know Gerrie Kincaid, but she sounds like a bully, too. I hope the School Board investigates her actions and - if this parent’s accusations are true - hands Kincaid her walking papers.


I wish somebody would try and bully my child. I’d show them what a real bully looks like. You have to take swift and immediate action and do not take no for an answer. I’ve has to deal with this issue twice . Trust me if you’re pounding the administrators door daily they will do something just to get rid of you. Tell them if they don’t do something you will and it will be their fault for inaction. Amazing how quick they will react. If you don’t stand up fight and advocate for your child , how will they learn to do it for themselves.?


Start with the Ca Dept of Ed., then Mary Barlow and end up with a federal complaint. Cover your bases. Kids shouldn’t be bullied in this day and age.


No! Unacceptable. I was not bullied but I saw gays kids bullied and you stick by your guns Mom. Good for you going over their heads.


She needs too. I’d have every agency involved.

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