Heather Ijames

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    HEATHER IJAMES: Husbands', wives' definitions of 'good husband' collide

    I came across an article with which I have to take issue. In so doing, it might appear I'm picking on husbands, but I'm not. I only want to address a wife's point of view of an article from www.GoodMenProject.com. I also want to disclose that my husband reads all my articles before

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    HEATHER IJAMES: My long lost daughter -- a new puppy

    I went ahead and caved, getting a new puppy after we had lost our other dog. I've had only Boston Terriers for years, and while I still think they are one of the smartest, family-friendly small breeds out there, I wanted something different. Dare I say, I wanted a more "frilly" breed.

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    HEATHER IJAMES: The good, bad of Lady Liberty's open heart

    I recently spent a day at the Federal Building in Los Angeles getting expedited passports, and something odd struck me about the masses waiting alongside us. Although we were in the same boat --needing a passport ASAP --the majority of the people there had different reasons than ours. I realized

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    HEATHER IJAMES: Marriage cliches that don't always work

    It's wedding time. Many couples get married or are celebrating their anniversaries in these surrounding weeks, myself included. If your marriage is like mine, a hearty sense of humor is quintessential. I mean, if Charles and I couldn't laugh about how stupid we can be sometimes, we would

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    HEATHER IJAMES: The pain of putting down a dog

    We recently had to put one of our dogs down. Old age, heart failure and bad kidneys for Rocco, a 12-year-old Boston Terrier. Bostons have a 12-to-15-year life expectancy, so it wasn't a surprise per se, but we had hoped his passing would have been more gentle. It's not a good place to be

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    HEATHER IJAMES: A butterfly habitat helps in child rearing

    I bought one of those live butterfly gardens from Insect Lore Bugseum, which starts out as a cup of caterpillars and is supposed to turn into five butterflies. Although I'd heard I might have to touch them, or touch near them when they were chrysalises -- and such did not seem plausible to my

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    HEATHER IJAMES: The ups and downs of middle life

    This middle-aged business is quite a pickle. It comes with this feeling that I'm stuck between two parts of life, filled with both pros and cons. PRO: I earn more money. CON: Earn was the operative verb, not have. Nowadays, I have to worry about bigger expenses such as life insurance,

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    HEATHER IJAMES: A workout nightmare is when lunges, torture collide

    I had postponed working out last week until I found myself on a Sunday needing to squeeze in one last workout before Monday. In preparation for this dreaded workout, I procrastinated by hopping on Facebook. There, I found an advert for a "revolutionary" four-minute workout that will

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    HEATHER IJAMES: My non-reliable program for buying your next vehicle

    I received many opinions and ideas on how to buy my next car. My conclusion, though, is I really didn't execute any of it right. I got a decent deal, but I know it could've been better. I had the help of my mother and brother, with a combined 20-something years of car dealership experience,

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    HEATHER IJAMES: The pure torture of clam chowder

    I'm not a fan of taking my children with me to the vet for the simple fact that they act more rabid than most animals. But our dog was sick, and I nabbed the last appointment for the day, children in tow. Prior to the vet's arrival in the exam room, everything was fine. The boys and I

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    HEATHER IJAMES: Bookstore's closure brings particular pain to author

    I feel a particular, painful pang at the closing of Russo's Books at The Marketplace. About a year ago, I had a great book signing there. I was floored with the outpouring of clientele showing up on that Saturday, treading that familiar emerald green carpet. It was a good day. A productive day.

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    HEATHER IJAMES: There's no motivation like a stick-fort war

    We had three sisters, the husbands, and eight kids in one house for a weekend in the mountains. The lot of cousins immediately took to the woods and built two stick forts. Everything was great until the young teenagers got there. Not from our clan, but from a neighboring cabin. The cousins came

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    HEATHER IJAMES: Doing thankful goes beyond being thankful

    A trend started a few years ago on Facebook where users post what they're thankful for on each day of November. Something about the ritual struck me this year, though. I almost felt an ambivalence toward the influx of posts. I'm probably being obtuse and judgmental, but when the posts

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    HEATHER IJAMES: Silver-haired wisdom tends to be sound

    I was reading an article by a father of three young boys, a man who was trying to shunt conventional wisdom with the excuse of he was tired. He said he wanted to hurt people who told him to enjoy the time he has when his kids are young, because those times will be gone before he knows it. He

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    HEATHER IJAMES: The worst part of youth sports -- parents

    I've had a respite from organized youth sports for a few years. It was nice. Had the boys in music lessons. No more cold morning games or hot afternoon practices. No more having someone sit next to me, spitting their saliva-riddled sunflower seed shells everywhere, stuck on my shorts and in my

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    HEATHER IJAMES: The ups and downs of vacations with kids

    Day one: We're on our way to Bodega Bay. We make a pit stop in Gilroy because they sell six ears of corn for a dollar and peaches the size of a linebacker's fist. They also have a vulgar named brand everywhere, and both of my kids can read labels. Sometimes, literacy is an enemy. Sometimes.